On Marriage | Does Your Husband Help at Home?

This is a new feature on the blog where I will publish stories related to what comes after a wedding – the marriage and the relationship behind it. Everything from what makes a marriage work, to what the Indian wife faces at home is open to discussion. Feel free to send in your honest thoughts on marriage, about your experiences so that we can all freely talk about it and learn from it. I am happy to let you write anonymously so that you can share your personal experiences openly and without a worry.

Does Your Husband Help At Home?

Kanika* is a 26 year old from Delhi who is getting married this December. In the lead up to her wedding, she has been feeling anxious about how she is expecting for herself to transform from a driven career woman to a multi-tasking care taker of the home and office affairs with limited to no help from her husband-to-be. She wonders why she feels it is her sole responsibility to manage her new home while remaining a star performer at work. Continue reading “On Marriage | Does Your Husband Help at Home?”

Dear Newlywed | Lessons from my 3-year-old marriage

My beautiful brides. I’ve watched several of you get married over the last few years, and while I’m always trying to iron out the wrinkles on your journey to a bride-to-be, I’ve felt many of us are left unprepared for the journey to a wife-to-be. This one is for all the future wives.

Dear Newlywed Bride,

You’re about to embark upon one of the best journeys life has to offer. Marriage. It’s such a small word, but has the most significant impact. It’s a delirious journey, where your happiness will know no bounds – you’re finally together forever. There is nothing more satisfying than knowing each morning will begin with the face of the person you love most in the world, and that the warm snuggle at night before you fall asleep will be in their arms.

You’re going to set up your home together, but while choosing your furniture and matching curtains, don’t forget to remember that you are, in fact, building a life together. Build new rules, keep some old ones. You’re free to do as you wish with this life. But keep glancing over your shoulder and make sure you’re holding hands. It may seem obvious, but when the hard days, the sad phase, the confusing moments begin to make themselves comfortable in your life – grip their hand a little harder. Make sure they’re there, and allow yourself to be gripped hard. Love is not easy, but loving hard, with all of your heart, opening up completely to another human being – letting them see you for who you truly are, and watching astonished as they accept you with all your flaws, till one day you realize you too have begun to accept them despite all the flaws you see – is the only way to love.  Continue reading “Dear Newlywed | Lessons from my 3-year-old marriage”