Of Big & Happy Brides

22 thoughts on “Of Big & Happy Brides”

  1. this is so heart-warming… I hate how our society puts so much pressure on the looks of the girl, specifically.. the height, weight, skin color- people have to discuss everything… nobody even bats an eyelid when it comes to the guys…
    anyhoo, this is a lot of motivation for a lot of people! kudos!

    And Pallavi- you look super cute in the pics ❤ wish you a blessed life ahead!

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  2. Wow.. this seems so much like my thoughts.. I have been a fat girl from my childhood.. but I always loved the way I was.. and now since my engagement got fixed. . I have started to see my flabs in mirror where as wat I say earlier was just my smile.. this is so very inspiring pallavi.. thank you shinjini.. hope to sport the same look on my wedding day too..leaving all the overweight issue aside…;)

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  3. I definitely agree society hates overweight person like me. There are no fashionable clothes available for your size as soon you enter a store the sales assistant will say it on your face. If are planning to have an arrange marriage then your weight becomes the biggest enemy. Clothes and looks only matter in this so called marriage market only for girls.Life is really tough when you are overweight as no one sees anything other than that.

    But now I really do not care what others think. I will life my life as per my own terms.people who are only concerned about appearances only are not required my life anymore.

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  4. Woww…this blog has been so nicely put up & truly describes wat a bride to be goes thru..
    well i am a bride to be now and its was my fiancé who brushed away all these size & weight issues for me like a joke when he said ” v r Marwari…so anything addition was most welcome…the bigger the better”….mine is an arranged marriage hence meant a lot when he said tht. Big or small , people love u for d person u r and not for ur size…

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  5. I was a big bride too, and I can totally relate to how Pallavi felt when she saw Nikhil. It was my wedding day, and i was determined to have a good time and make every moment a memory I’d want to replay everyday. So, yeah I have a wedding album full of unflattering photos, but it takes nothing away from how happy I was that day!

    Nice post, as always! 🙂 Pallavi, you made such a happy bride, bless! 🙂

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  6. Reblogged this on British Asian Bride and commented:
    Check out this inspirational guest post from The Delhi Bride about being a ‘big bride’. A great read.

    Have you felt the pressure to lose weight or lighten your skin five shades before your big day?

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  7. Loved this post. Have reblogged too. Pallavi is a beautiful bride. Weight has nothing to do with it. Ladies, once we stop allowing other to judge us, they will stop.

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  8. Thanks for sharing Pallavi’s thoughts with all of us. I have seen so many of my friends experience similar emotions. Cheers to life. As she rightly said, “a beaming smile” is all that takes to make us look beautiful…

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  9. Wow! For a minute I was so taken aback! You see, my name is Pallavi, and I just got married to a boy named Nikhil 😀
    My story though is absolute opposite of this. I have always been petite and small. During the months leading up to the wedding, I was extensively traveling (across China, as a vegetarian too!) and as a result I shrunk further! Before the wedding I had so many people come up to me and comment on how I am losing all charm by losing too much weight and should stop doing whatever I am doing that I was really worried on how I’d look on wedding day. Did the same thing as this Pallavi then. Just smiled and had fun! Guess that’s all any girl can do.

    http://www.thatdesigirl.com

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  10. I so agree…
    I know noone likes to look “fat” on their wedding day, and one of my closest friends has had weight problems since the beginning but because she was just so happy, it just didn’t matter. Hello- your husband is madly in love with you , you so called ‘fatness’ and everything else that comes with it and that is all that matters ..

    On the flipside i recentlt attended a sangeet where this really pretty girl had probably gone into lengths to fit into this shantanu and nikhil gown…like a really tiny, skinny little gown…the girl fainted on her own sangeet!!! whats the point???

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  11. So true brides should just relax and enjoy thier big day irrespective of anyone,anything. I réaliséd it after mine, and I still regret it.though I was happy, I dint enjoy it as much as I could’ve cause of every other small thing I wanted to be perfect.Leave all aside wind- up relax and don’t think about anything is the mantra :).Just be yourself!

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  12. Oh well, quite well written, and surprisingly i relate to it, even though I am quite the opposite, having an extra slim model like size zero figure!

    The difference is that the whole world talks about the pressures of being fat, as if being thin was the ideal thing. If it were, I would not have grown up with similar pressures all my life to put on weight! I am healthy and fit, but all through my school, college and pre- wedding all i ever heard was “Oh my god you are so thin, dont you eat anything” (I hog a lot mind you- its just my built) and if I were to leave it to society and people around me, Id hate the way i look. In fact, I did hate being slim for most of my growing years, until i realised this is who i really am, this is the way my body is, and i began to like myself for it.

    Wedding (weight) pressures were similar on me despite being the society’s so called ideal body type. So if you leave your sanity in hands of the society, they will always turn around and tell you whats terribly wrong with your looks! I liked the message.. just enjoy being who you are!

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  13. Pallavi is married, she looks absolutely stunning !!!! I knew her in school as the chirpiest and fun loving senior 🙂 this is a lovely post! Love how your blog is going places, covering many more aspects of a bride’s heart than just make up and clothes! 😀

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  14. Hi

    Could you recommend any place in delhi where we can go for professional packing of gifts for shogun etc in wedding ?

    Regards Shubhra.

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  15. Hi Pallavi! I am sehrish! I am from Pakistan. Many Congratulations to you! I am close to getting married and I am a person who has never thought what others think throughout my life.But now I have started to realize that people put a lot of pressure on a bride to be,and want her to fulfill THEIR expectations on purely HER day! I never gave a damn about what should i wear and what other people think about my dressing and I do not want to think or do anything like that now! but I just feel helpless at times. even our own mothers tell us to worry about what in laws are going to think!
    I am so RELIEVED to know that you celebrated your big day genuinely YOUR OWN WAY! and didn’t bother about society. It was you and you soul-mate that mattered! and you did it right! And you are so lucky to have such a simple and real man as your life partner!
    Pictures and camera are not more important than your happiness!

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  16. she looks pretty. i hope to look similar on my wedding day…being a plus size girl i can co-relate my self with her. what to wear what not to wear. hair updo’s… blah blah….. but looking at her it cheers me up.

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  17. pallvi i love your thinking about wedding,,i hope everygirl accept this.you are so lucky to have such a simple and real man as your life partner!

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  18. this is so heart-warming… I hate how our society puts so much pressure on the looks of the girl, specifically.. the height, weight, skin color- people have to discuss everything… nobody even bats an eyelid when it comes to the guys…
    anyhoo, this is a lot of motivation for a lot of people! kudos!

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  19. wow you just said it all 🙂 and i just know what it means :/ i have been never slim or anything but have a average body type and have loved myself, even my family and friends never complained about it, infact everyone liked me and i have got and still get compliments evrywhr, i am one of the good looking gals or probably was 😦 cos my would be( though he liked me in starting) has started to discuss this thing with me like daily,,, about my weight, why don i go to gym, how much um gona loose!!! i feel so confused about his behaviour!!! he s very good otherwise!!! but this thing started to kinda put me on a negative zone!!! this might evn afect my confidnce in long run!!! um so confused, i hope i did a right thing 😦

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